There comes a time in everyone’s life when they have to face the cold hard truth that a season comes to all those who live and breathe that causes one’s social well to dry up. It’s not unnatural or uncommon. However to most, the one thing that it is, is unacceptable! Because of that overwhelming feeling of non-acceptation, people are driven to fulfill their human sexual desires with anyone who is willing to hit it then split it without recourse of a commitment. This practice is commonly referred to as “friends with benefits” or “FWBs.” And though we’ve discussed FWB’s before, we’ve not discussed the short end of the stick of being one of those friends with benefits.
Though hooking up without any strings can be a good thing, it should not go unsaid that it’s very much a double bladed sword. Burning loins extinguished by the touch of another’s hands put aside, there are a couple of questions you have to ask yourself about being trapped in an un-relationship.
Question #1. Why does the resort always have to be a hookup? What is it about me that makes people not want anything more than my fun company and devilishly freaky ways in the sack?
I may not have a solution to the issue that has you stumped on why no one wants anything more from you than your ass, but I do know that you get what you ask for. Stop being so easy and put a padlock on those open legs of yours. Being easy makes it easier for people not to want to be interested in you outside of the bedroom. No matter the status of your f*ck-buddy – friend or stranger – you’ll still be viewed as a garden tool if you don’t step up your game in the self-respect department. After all, you can’t expect anyone to master the art of loving you if you haven’t mastered the art of loving yourself first.
Question #2. Why am I emotionally attached?
You’re probably emotionally attached because you’re lonely – truth be told.
Most hook-ups are consensual. And most of them are mapped out before the undies hit the floor. If you’re letting your feelings get involved, then you’re the damn fool. The person who’s tapping that ass is only in it for the cheap thrill. Once you’ve gotten that last orgasm out of your system, you’re going to be sitting on the side of your bed asking yourself Question #1 all over again. If you can’t keep your feelings out of the deal, then your best bet is to go apply for a membership card at your local xxx shop! There’s no point in you getting attached to someone who doesn’t want you mentally. There’s a HUGE difference between being attracted to someone mentally and being attracted sexually. The sexual attraction is the easy part. A couple of drinks and a paper bag and the whole thing’s over in a few hours (if you’re lucky). Otherwise, you’re just fooling yourself while you’re waiting for the big let down.
The list of questions to ask yourself why you’re not good enough for a person to settle down with could go on for as long as time can bare but it’s up to only you to make the changes needed to draw the energy that you so desire.
If you want a good bang session, all you have to do is dream it up and it’ll happen. Dating and relationships aren’t so easy these days. Well, it is if you’re just a big ol’ bully who has mad skills in scaring someone into dating you, but let’s be honest — that wouldn’t go as far as a whale can peddle on a bike.
Let’s break this down in simplest terms.
- If you’re only good enough for a f*ck, then a person shouldn’t be good enough for you.
- Have more respect for yourself because if you don’t, no one else will.
- Most FWB situations don’t come guilt-free. Keep that in mind before you open your legs. Someone is going to be left wiping their leaking eyeballs with a wet rag.
If a person can’t match up to the high standards that you set for yourself and they’re trying their damnedest to flee — LET THEM. It’s not always easy to let someone go. Thank goodness 90% of any effort is getting started. The truth is, you deserve more and everyone knows it. You’re just the only person willing to admit it openly.
Quote of the week: “Is it better to be sometimes cheated than not to trust at all?”