Fellas, grab your family jewels and ladies, clutch your pearls!  I’m about to explain to you the answer to a question people have been asking for dozens of years: 

Why do people seem to get so much better after they’ve gotten out of a relationship?

There is no ONE simple answer to this question.  Actually, there are quite a few answers that not many people really take the time to explore.  I guess it’s lucky for you that Hottywood has nothing better to do with this his time than to try to make you a better person in the long run.  So let’s see what we can do help hip you to the dating game.  

After getting out of a relationship, whether long or short or whether you’re the dumper or the dumpee, when it’s all over, sooner or later you’ll realize it’s all for the best – and that’s because of the few reasons listed below.  No need to thank me for this.  Hottywood helps.  It’s what I do.  

• After the relationship is over, you have more time to focus on yourself.  Truth be told, you’ve been left with no other choice but to put yourself first.  This is the way it should’ve been all along.  You’ll keep that in mind the next time you’re staring at your lonely self in the mirror on a Friday night when all of your friends are out on their dates and you’re left at home eating unbuttered popcorn and drinking endless bottles of 2 liter sodas. 
• You don’t have to pretend to be someone or something you’re not for the sake of someone else, especially if it isn’t moving your relationship along.  Remember, there are always more barracudas in the sea! 
• You haven’t met anyone unselfish enough to encourage and support a better you (and by support we’re not talking about fronting all of the bills).  Just remember, no one is going to support and encourage you if the only thing you’re good at is selling your va-jay-jay or other unmentionables to your neighborhood compadres in an effort to pass yourself off as an entrepreneur.   Well, unless you live in a trailer somewhere near the swamps. 
• Now that you’re single, you must always look your best to land another dead end relationship lover.  No one’s going to pick you up if you’ve let yourself go before you’ve been gotten. 
• You were really never interested in the person you were dating and now that you’re no longer together you’ve found a whole new level of enthusiasm.  Believe it or not, some people date simply because they do not want to be alone.  In the end, they learn that they’re more alone with the person they are pretending to have feelings for than they are when they’re actually by themselves.  Is it really worth it?
• Deep within your soul, you know you have to be a better person to land someone in a better social class than your cheap, lazy and trifling ass.  Sometimes the only person you’re lying to is yourself, especially if you’re dating below your standards.  However in all fairness, the street goes both ways.  You’re not always the cream of the crop and it’s very likely that someone doesn’t want to be with you because of your lack of [elite] social standing.  Hey, no one’s perfect.
• Payback is the name of the game!  Let’s face it, who doesn’t want an ex to see what they’ve been missing and want them to miss what they’ll never have again?  Payback is a bitch, and if you’re going to be a bitch, you might as well be a good looking and successful one!  Even better if you’re looking tastier than your ex’s current unsatisfying arm candy.  Nothing says payback better than “na na na boo boo.”      

So boys and girls, there you have it.   Believe me, the list of reasons why people get better after life after love goes on and on, but what I’ve just given you are the most common reasons.  Now you don’t have to spend any unnecessary time trying to figure out how you’ll go on if you’ve just been dumped.  And if you were fortunate enough to be the one doing the dumping, then SUFFER!  Because the person you let go of is going to emerge a better and stronger person and will have you to thank for it.  They’ll be thanking you for days to come for not being around to cramp their style or hold them back.   I guess some people just have to get pushed out of a nest.  Anyone can soar like an eagle, whether it’s on a jet or with a bomb batch of herb…whatever the case, 90% of any effort is getting started. 

__________________________________________________________

Quote of the week:   “It’s not holding on that makes you strong; it’s letting go.